Two poets artistically highlighted a growing problem in the United States; the black man's hostility towards the black woman. The video immediately went viral and the comments were even more entertaining, though I must admit also depressing. What has the black community in America deteriorated to? Having lived in America myself for a few years and considering the vast amount of incriminating information on social media, I believe there is truth to the message delivered in this poem. Of course this is not applicable to every black male in the US, but the fact that it has drawn so much attention means a significant number fit the stereotype.
So this begs the question, why do these black men regard black women as just not being good enough? These men do not hesitate to state in one way or another that they find black women less appealing physically or personality wise. What happened to solidarity? To standing up for and defending your own (and then chastising them in private if need be)? There is no denying the fact that there are black American women that can be quite difficult, but for me that is not enough reason to publicly disrespect and degrade them in favor of other races. As a black man it is self-deprecating because who you are and as long as you remain black, you would never dissociate yourself completely from the black woman. So instead of coming together to help solve your problems, you run. You run to the comfort of the other races at the expense of yours. That does not sound new, does it? We Africans are doing it too. Instead of staying at home to help solve our issues, most of us find "refuge" in the comforts of the western world.
Do not misunderstand me, I am not against interracial dating/marriage/unions. People of different races can genuinely fall in love with each other and decide to spend the rest of their lives together, especially in multi-racial countries. There is only a problem when an individual specifically excludes a particular race from his/her dating options particularly due to physical reasons. I believe the personality issue is usually just a front, a flimsy excuse as to why these men prioritize women of other races. Worldwide the representation of female beauty does not favor typical black genes, and because our world has become so superficial, most black women cannot light a candle to women of other races when it comes to being attractive in the mainstream way (fair skin, long hair, tiny nose). But shouldn't choosing a mate be deeper than what is on the outside? Yeah, but nowadays that is only likely to happen in the church; in communities and among people who are not driven by media and society's expectations. Thank God in Christ there is always hope. You know what this particular issue reminded me of? Matthew 10, where Jesus is talking about how tough things are going to get. Verse 21 says:
"Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death"
Of course it is not that serious...yet.
So this begs the question, why do these black men regard black women as just not being good enough? These men do not hesitate to state in one way or another that they find black women less appealing physically or personality wise. What happened to solidarity? To standing up for and defending your own (and then chastising them in private if need be)? There is no denying the fact that there are black American women that can be quite difficult, but for me that is not enough reason to publicly disrespect and degrade them in favor of other races. As a black man it is self-deprecating because who you are and as long as you remain black, you would never dissociate yourself completely from the black woman. So instead of coming together to help solve your problems, you run. You run to the comfort of the other races at the expense of yours. That does not sound new, does it? We Africans are doing it too. Instead of staying at home to help solve our issues, most of us find "refuge" in the comforts of the western world.
Do not misunderstand me, I am not against interracial dating/marriage/unions. People of different races can genuinely fall in love with each other and decide to spend the rest of their lives together, especially in multi-racial countries. There is only a problem when an individual specifically excludes a particular race from his/her dating options particularly due to physical reasons. I believe the personality issue is usually just a front, a flimsy excuse as to why these men prioritize women of other races. Worldwide the representation of female beauty does not favor typical black genes, and because our world has become so superficial, most black women cannot light a candle to women of other races when it comes to being attractive in the mainstream way (fair skin, long hair, tiny nose). But shouldn't choosing a mate be deeper than what is on the outside? Yeah, but nowadays that is only likely to happen in the church; in communities and among people who are not driven by media and society's expectations. Thank God in Christ there is always hope. You know what this particular issue reminded me of? Matthew 10, where Jesus is talking about how tough things are going to get. Verse 21 says:
"Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death"
Of course it is not that serious...yet.